I have found over 46 Biblical quotes like these:
Old Testament Proverbs
New Testament Advice
The epistle to the Ephesians, written, I believe, by a follower of Paul’s, tries to make a wife’s “obedience” more palatable by saying that her husband must love her like Jesus loved the Church. Okay, but what if he doesn’t? The epistle never deals with that issue.
Why is Scripture so silent about the bully-husband? Where can we find the verses that talk about him? We can’t. Forty-six verses about the nagging wife and not one about the bully-husband. We read several times about the jealous husband, “whose wrath shows no mercy” (Proverbs. 6:34), and then a long justification for his wrath with this reason: his wife has been unfaithful (Num. 5:14), but we never see the guilty husband. When it comes to marriage, it’s the wife who’s guilty of nagging; what’s the husband guilty of? Nothing?
Now “men” are roundly chastised in Scripture; no doubt about it. In fact, all 50 of the Parables of Jesus are directed toward the men; not one proscribes what women are to do. And it’s the same in the Old Testament: the 10 Commandments are given to men. It doesn’t talk to wives and say: “Do not covet your neighbor’s husband.”
But when the discussion is about a husband-wife problem, it is the wife who gets the brunt of the blame. It’s the wife who has ceased to be subservient and has begun to nag, and it’s her nagging that must be punished.
Why is this? Well, we (men) can always say “because the Bible says so!” We can resort to the belief that the Bible is the inspired word of God and therefore wives are the problem because that’s what it says. And there’s no doubt about that. However, we all know that God used men to write the Scriptures – not women. In fact, not one of the 66 books of the Bible was written by a woman. Not one. Have you ever thought what some of these books might have said had a feminine touch been felt? Just imagine that famous book of Proverbs. Instead of: “The proverbs of Solomon, son of David,” it could read: “The proverbs of Miriam, sister of Moses.” And the first lines would be:
We don’t find verses like these--not because our Biblical God would object to them--but because men would not allow women to read or write, and if by chance, one of them did learn -her writings would never have been called Scripture by the men who determined “the canon” in the year 419 at the Council of Carthage.
Nagging still exists but it is not the exclusive sin of the wife any more. Women have been liberated from the submissive role outlined in Ephesians, and are free to enter into a marriage of partners. Christianity has evolved and so has Judaism.
And finally: it is my opinion that Holy Scripture—like every piece of literature—must be understood according to the times in which it was written.